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I have been thinking a lot, and I’ve made up my mind, that there are times in life, that irrespective of how terrible you have been treated by someone else, that you always have the option to “do the right thing.” Things with my career are going amazingly well, the current trajectory for my position and salary, should have me making well over 250K per year within the next three years.
So, I’ve decided that if (and only if), that actually happens, I’m going to court to voluntarily alter my divorce decree and put in alimony to my ex-wife for 7 years after our daughter is emancipated. Yes, that’s right. You read that exactly correct.
I had sent my ex a text message saying that we were going to have to revisit the issue of alimony in two or three years. She asked what I meant by that, here is my response:
That text, means simply this Tammy: In spite of the absolute bullshit that you have put me through, I acknowledge that my career trajectory and station in life is dramatically different than it was when we got divorced. IF it continues as I expect, I will evaluate alimony. I am not obligated to pay it now, and given what you have done to me previously, I have no moral obligation to do so either.
I do however feel, that if in fact my career continues on it’s present trajectory, that I should consider “doing the right thing.” You are the mother of our daughter, and when my child support ends, you will be significantly financially impacted, as 48% of your monthly income will be removed. (I remember, my child support helps a little. In actuality, that is not remotely accurate).
While the temptation for me, is to say “free at last, free at last,” that ultimately is not an accurate reflection of who I am as a person.
So, IF and only if, my career path continues, we will go to court to establish alimony that begins after child support ends, for a period of either 7 years, or as a lump sum payout.
To be clear: This would be a initiated by me, predicated on my continuing success. Further note, that there would be no aspect of the agreement that is negotiable. I will evaluate where I am at financially in 3 years, and establish the agreement at that time.
The terms of our legal separation spelled out no alimony, and Arizona law clearly states that neither party can pursue alimony after the decree was finalized.
I would be doing this as a function of acting in the best interest of our daughter, and out of respect to you as the mother of our child.
Yep, I sent that. Why would I consider doing that? Ever? Read the last sentence. Yes, contrary to all of the lies she stated in court, what she’s said to friends and her family, the bottom line for me is that I need to adhere to my core values. Depending on where my career is at in 3 years, I will do one of three things:
Option A): Career is going awesomely well. $2,976 per month for 7 years, netting her 250K.
Option B): Career is going decently well. $1,500 per month for 7 years, netting her 126K
Option C): Career has stagnated. $1,160 per month for 7 years, netting her $97,440.
Personally, I like option “A.” Why? Simple: She claims that I’m “evil.” Considering the fact that I would be VOLUNTARILY giving her a quarter of a million dollars over the course of 7 years, AFTER she has done virtually everything to destroy me, speaks for itself.